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Are you worthy?

Posted on by philipdodson

We live in a world where our worthiness is constantly challenged and, we as individuals, are always questioning this in our heads. The society has created this challenge for all of us.

Worthiness

What is our worthiness based on? Not just by society, but how do we internally justify our worthiness?

This whole thing of feeling worthy is such a big thing and it has such a huge impact on our lives.

I am reading a book at the moment called ‘The Happiness Advantage’ by Shawn Achor. He talks about the fact that society wrongly believes that ‘success leads to happiness’. Where all of his and others research points to the fact that is ‘happiness leads to success’

Success is measure in many different ways, but typically success is always measured by numbers or how big something is or by achievement. This then leads to deciding whether or not we are worthy, whether or not we are a success.

So how many followers you have on Twitter, friends on Facebook, how many ‘likes’ your Instagram #selfie got. Then we’ll look at the title on your business card, how many A* GCSE’s you got, how big the car is, the size of your house, the labels you wear and the list goes on. The achievements that you can rack up and what you have done.

These will be the measures that others use to judge us by and then we can add on all the internal things that we will add ourselves, driven by our fear of what others think of us.

So we’ll compare our pay with others or wealth in general and then determine just how worthy we are or not.

This is serious stuff, as it will effect our sense of self-worth, our self confidence and will ultimately lead to judging ourselves against others. This will create this false truth that others are more important, or better, or more worthy of something because of it.

We have all been guilty of thinking that a ‘successful’ wealthy business person is more important or better than us. Or someone who society has told us to judge as being more handsome/beautiful is a better and more worthy person.

Our society is so infected with this damaging way of measuring success or failure, worthiness or not. It is having a huge impact on peoples mental and physical well-being.

The fact is that it is all a load of bullshit. We are all human beings, we are all as good and worthy as anyone else. The size of your salary, wealth, car, house, tits, the labels you wear, the number of followers, or any other achievement based measure is all irrelevant.

These shallow measures are a curse on our whole society and it is time to stop supporting this system and time to stay true to your values.

The fact is there is no right or wrong in life, after all, if there was the definitive rule book or manual for life, then Amazon would be selling it by the millions of copies.

Society imposes these measures on us and we don’t have to accept them. We need to stop caring about what others think, how others judge us does not matter.

As Brene Brown says in her book ‘Daring Greatly’, we are already worthy. No amount of stuff, achievements etc will make us any more worthy than someone else.

We need to start off with sorting our own minds and we need to start telling ourselves that we are worthy and we are equal to others. Then we need to stop judging others and we need to start viewing everyone else as another worthy human being.

Then we need to stop measuring our ‘success’ by these shallow things. We need to realise that success is a personal thing, where there is no right or wrong. We can define our own measure of what success is.

After all at the end of our lives, we will not look back on the stuff we owned, or the number of followers we had, or how big our salary was. We will look back on the legacy that we are leaving, the impact that we have had on others, the people we’ve met and the moments that we’ve had with them.

It is about being happy, building the life that we want and creating something that we leave behind. We all need to make our own personal difference.

So next time you look at your payslip or the number of friends you have on Facebook, realise none of that matters, it can’t improve your happiness and you are already a worthy human being. Chase your dreams and build your own life that makes you happy.

Let’s get this revolution well and truly going.

Posted on by philipdodson

You see previously if you wanted to change the system, you had to be prepared to take up arms and you needed to have a lot of muscle, money and influence.

revolution - Philip Dodson

Now there is no need for a musket or £millions, you still need influence though. That’s what is great about today’s connected world, is that if you have the right message that others what to align to or they share the same values and desires, then you can connect with them online through social media and blogs etc.

So the need to make change happen by force is now redundant, you can make the change by spreading the message to your followers. The following will increase if enough people like the message and want to spread it to others for you.It takes time, unless you’re a celebrity, but if you want to do your bit to help change happen then you have to put the work in.

There are a growing number of people worldwide, who have (as I blogged about before) discovered, that we have all been fed a ‘crock of shit’. That the top 1%, who have all the money and power, are screwing all of us over and that inequality gap is growing wider and wider at an alarming rate.

There are a growing number of us fed up by being taken for a ride and are fed up with the ‘old school’ system, that has ruined the world and is still continuing to take it further and further down, for the benefit of a tiny, tiny select few.

Our freedoms are gradually being further and further eroded, especially as the establishment see the threat that social media and internet is becoming to their cushy little tea party,

What is happening with virtual currencies, the sharing economy, the likes of people such as Russell Brand and many others, who are now openly challenging the established world order, is that there is momentum growing, more and more people are start to look at things differently.

The current world order is driven by consumerism, by fear, by scarcity, by money, by profits, by anything but people. More and more of us now have grown tired of that and we now want to see a world based on communities, on helping others, on putting people first.

This is what is one of the driving forces behind the self-employment revolution and the rise of the sharing economy, coworking and social enterprise.

We are standing at the edge of the abyss, we are at a fork in the road for humanity.

It is time to tear down that world that has kept all of working as slaves to the system, so that top 1% can keep themselves at the top.

Most people will just work to scrape by in life, there is no more cheap food, no more cheap utilities, the scarcity economy has seen to that. So most people earn enough to survive, now relatively compared to billions in developed nations, most of us are doing OK. But increasingly all we are doing is to work all hours to then spend all our money on materials and just consume.

This is what the system wants us to do, keep consuming, buying shit we really don’t need. The endless pressure on all of us is relentless and if you haven’t got the latest this and that, then you’re a loser.

So it is time to stop this and time to start spreading the word and to stop consuming, stop worshipping money, stop work for others in shitty jobs that we hate.

It is time to stand up to all of this, stop buying your food at Tesco’s, stop buying Starbucks who never pay tax, stop eating junk food and processed food that is full of sugar and salt, which is going to turn out to be a bigger killer than tobacco.

It is predicted now that the younger generations will now for the first time have a shorter life expectancy than their parents.

By 2050 1/3 of the US will be diabetic, yet we are feeding ourselves sugary crap on a daily basis and governments go hand in hand with giant food corps the world over to promote it.

There is still people clamouring for cigarettes to be outlawed etc, forget that, heart, diabetes, and circulatory diseases will dwarf that.

There is a globally epidemic relating to health, there is a global widening of the wealth inequality, the is worsening health, there is a rising population with dwindling resources.

There are now people being arrested in the US who feed homeless people because businesses see homeless people like litter and that they have a detrimental effect on the their business and profits.

So if you are sick of the way the world is run, don’t wait for it to change, start connecting with others on social media, influence friends, write blogs, share other peoples stuff. Take ownership, stop buying stuff you don’t really need, share and help others. Stop supporting the party political system regardless of their ‘flavour’ – they are all only there to serve themsleves, stay in power and do what their narrow base of financial supporters want.

If like me you have had enough of the old school world, then let’s start the revolution now.