No matter how much we think we are something, the reality is we are not.
This works both ways, we can think that we are doing everything wrong or we can think that we are perfect. We are neither. We have a self-image that our minds create, we are not that image.
Patience is the key to it all when you are trying to expand and grow as a person, it takes a long while to unlearn the conditioning of a lifetime and the habits we have formed around it. It takes time to stop being the reaction, to stop the mindstream, to stay present.
If we stay in the moment, being patient with ourselves, even when things are challenging in our environment, then all of the mind chatter that brings us the suffering will dissolve.
Peace is always in the now, but be kind, it will come.