So I was reading something on Facebook listing the keys to success and that got me thinking about what I would put in a such a list. Not that I disagreed with the poster’s views, it’s just I felt it missed a few things that were for me important.
Also, I am not saying I’m right either, after all success should be a personal thing and not what it looks like for others.
So here goes, here is my take on this and in no particular order of importance, other than the first two for me are essential:
1. Know your values
This is something that I now realise has to be the bedrock of everything in life and if you don’t know what your values are, then success will be hard to come by. Often when something doesn’t feel right, but we’re not sure why, it’s because something is conflicting with our values. It won’t go away and the moment we start to compromise our values, then things start to go wrong.
So not just knowing your values, but living by them. Then decisions in almost everything become straight-forward.
2. Be happy
Happiness leads to success not the other way round. You can choose to be happy or not. It is a mindset that we control and if you have a positive mindset and choose happiness, then success will come in whatever you choose to do.
There is a great book on this called ‘The Happiness Advantage’ by Shawn Achor.
3. Help others
Part of helping us to feel good and therefore happy, is when we help others. It is important to help others without an agenda too. Random acts of kindness have a massive impact on personal well-being and happiness.
4. Believe & never give up
Belief in what you do or your dream is essential for success. It seems an obvious thing to say, but that belief has to be cast iron and with that you have to keep going, whatever shit comes your way on the journey. Never ever give up hope or the belief.
Once you have your dream and you are full of belief, then you have to work at it, you have to sacrifice things, you have to be prepared to be disciplined and do whatever work is needed to make that dream a reality.
6. Look after yourself
This may again seem an obvious one, but it is important to not only look after yourself physically, but even more critical is to look after your mental well-being. So eat the right stuff, get your sleep, take breaks, do exercise and take time for yourself.
Make sure that you allow time for fun, meditation, and time spent when you switch off from the day to day.
You can only work at warp factor 9 for so long, no matter who you are and spending time on you is vital for success.
For example, just taking 5-10 minutes a day to meditate will have a huge impact on mental and physical health. People who meditate are much happier too.
Taking time to write your thoughts down each day helps unwind and work out challenges. I use 750words.com
It is important to realise that you are not brilliant at everything and as long as the others you work with share your values, then collaborating with other people/businesses is a critical element in being successful.
You can then concentrate on what you are best at and as mate Brad Burton says ‘there is no cavalry you have to build your own’.
8. Dare to be great
To many people worry about what the critics might say, don’t. Step into the ‘ring’ and don’t worry about the people sitting on the sidelines, as they didn’t have the courage to step into the ‘ring’ and take the knocks.
There is a great book by Brene Brown called ‘Daring Greatly’ that is a definite read for learning about success.
9. Take the small steps
Once you have a vision of your dream, it is then important to break it all down into manageable steps, that if taken daily with discipline, will lead you to where you want to go. As Mao said ‘A journey of a thousand miles starts with one small step’.
These daily steps are what creates the compound effect that will catapult you and will build the momentum that will lead to reaching your goals.
There is another great book by Darren Hardy called ‘The Compound Effect’ which illustrates this concept brilliantly.
10. Have no fears
Regret is what comes when we allow fears to dominate us and stop us from action. Fears can be overcome, but regrets are very hard to remove. So easier said than done, but don’t fear failure, as mistakes are what makes us stronger.
The mistakes we make, we would make again, even if we could go back in time, as every decision we make is based on our knowledge/experience gained up to the point we make that decision. So it is futile to worry about these things, just move on from mistakes and learn for the future.
Again might seem a very obvious thing to put, but we are going to have today and therefore it is better to enjoy the day, have fun and cherish the moments that day brings. Shit will happen some days, but it is how you react to it that will shape your life and success.
12. Surround yourself with the right people
If you are to be a success, you must choose and surround yourself with positive people who have shared values and who will stick by you whatever. This is so important.
As Debbie Huxton my coach talks about ‘remove toxic relationships’.