Blockages

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No matter what we are trying to do in life, we often come up against blockages.

These blockages are not real physical things very often, perhaps a tree might fall and block the road, but normally the blocks live in our heads.

No one else puts them there either, we put them there. We may try to blame others and say it was them who made us think that. But ‘them’ are not to blame, no one is, we choose to put the blocks there.

Sometimes they are obvious blocks, for example if we have a bad leg, then it is probably a good idea to block the plan to go tree climbing. Or if we can’t swim, then in the short-term it probably might be good to block the idea of a round the world sailing trip. Longer term we can learn how to swim, if we really want to sail around the world badly enough.

The more difficult blocks are the ones that are well disguised by excuses that our chimp, instant gratification brain, comes up with to block anything that will interfere with short-term reward and gain. Blockages in the head are often fear related, fear of failure, fear of being laughed at, fear that we aren’t good or worthy enough to do something.

Blockages come in all forms, but the good news is, like a blocked pipe or drain, they can be flushed out and cleared.

The key is to identify what the real reason is for holding us up from trying, starting or doing something. It is nearly always the thing that we think we most want in life that we have the biggest blocks about.

Sometimes the block is we kid ourselves that we want to do a particular activity or want to behave in a certain way, when really deep down we don’t.

If we find out who we really are, how we really want to be and why we want to do something or not, then there is a good chance of finding what the blocks are.

Then it’s a step by step process of removing the block by changing habits and the ‘truths’ we tell ourselves.

We all have blocks, find them, and slowly start to remove them. But first, make sure that you really, as in really, really want to do that thing. Then the inspiration is there to overcome any blockages.

Things don’t fail

Philip Dodson blog

Things don’t fail

The outcome might not be as we anticipated from the outset. Things rarely are.

We have created a myth, similar to the black and white ‘good vs evil’ story, of only two outcomes, win or lose, success or failure.

That is because it is easier to sell the myth, it is easier to always get us to come back for more and there is nothing more powerful than the myth that is a failure.

‘Failure’ needs to be redefined as learning. No need for any negatives, after all, who sets out to fuck things up?

Stop beating yourself up with their myths, create your own rules and simply carry on positively learning from the choices we make.

Better than fearing to do something because you might fail. If there is fear, then that is normally a sign you are onto something, it might not work, but that is how we learn.