Goals and values

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If it gets the same result, then why not use whatever method necessary to get to the goal?

In our microwave world, where the ‘hustle’ is seen as the way to do things, get it done whatever the ‘costs’ and it has to be now, means that how we achieve that goal is less important than the goal.

However, it is not possible to have a goal that matches our true values, yet then achieve it in a way that would be contrary to those values. That would mean that we have not reached our true goal but a watered down version of it.

If you want something no matter how you get it, then that is fine, but very few of us would find that matching our true values and would not really find that very meaningful or ethical.

Even if it takes twice as long, I would rather stick to my values, to my true goal, than simply settle for something less that can be achieved in any way possible.

Values will always last, will always be meaningful and it will avoid the need to sell our soul to reach a false goal.

Bad person versus bad choices

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If someone lies to you, or says something hurtful, or makes a wrong choice that has a negative outcome for you or others, then society has conditioned us to see them as a bad person.

It is all part of the shaming culture. Someone lies, they are a liar, which is a label that sticks and the ‘liar’ feels that is what they are and there is no redemption, no way out.

Instead, it is better to see that people make bad choices, and that doesn’t make them a bad person. A bad choice can be corrected and the person has a chance to learn and adjust their behaviour going forward.

We all are trying to do the best we can in life for ourselves and our families etc, no one sets out to do bad things.

Once you can accept this, then it is easy to let go of others bad choices, to forgive and to move on.

There is no benefit from labelling others as bad.

We may choose to move on from that person if they keep repeating the bad choices or if they are having a negative impact on us.

But it still does not make them a bad person.