Add something

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When we criticise, judge, hate, shame or confront others and ourselves, then we take something away, we remove something from our lives and others.

Our society controls us by encouraging much of that behaviour. However, without those negative influences, we would not behave like that. We are not born knowing how to take away from ourselves or others, we are taught too.

When we share a smile, laughter, music, art, kindness, love, friendship, singing, writing, knowledge, our food, our water, whatever it is, that will make us happy and others. This is what makes life worthwhile. This always brings joy.

Imagine if all 7 billion of us focused first on adding to our own lives and then the lives of others, what a difference that would make to the human race.

It’s just a habit that we can all change, switch off the negative world soundtrack and add your own music and sunshine to life and to the world.

Empathy not sympathy

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Our default response to other people’s bad days or tough times or injuries is either, get on with it and don’t moan or sympathy.

People say to someone who’s broken their leg ‘well at least the other leg is OK’. Or if you have had an illness ‘well it could be worse you could have had….’.

Most people just want someone to listen and understand when they have shit happen in their life or they’ve had a bad day.

But being empathetic is seen as a weakness and we all need to display a ‘stiff upper lip’. The fact is it takes some vulnerability, bravery and kindness to empathise with others.

The world would be a less hateful, angry, judgemental and cold place if we all choose to understand, listen and empathise. Share feelings not repress them or judge others for showing and sharing them.