Tag: ourselves

Share your gift

Posted on by philipdodson

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I blogged recently about choosing yourself and not waiting to be chosen.

However once you have gone down the path of choosing yourself comes the need to share what we create.

If we have an idea and simply keep it to ourselves through fear, often the fear of rejection or ridicule, then it has not been born or created.

In order to actually turn an idea into something real and tangible, we have to share it with others.

If we choose the right people to share it with, learn from each thing that we share, modifying along the way, then we have chosen ourselves, shared our work and we will be appreciated by the people who matter.

Fear can be overcome, the critic doesn’t matter, as they have not stepped in the ‘ring, however, regret lasts. Criticism is irrelevant, feedback from the ones who love us matter.

Choose yourself and share your own unique gift, we all have one.

Letting others down

Posted on by philipdodson

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In life, we are often concerned or even preoccupied with the fear of letting others down.

‘Oh, I can’t do x, as I don’t want to let ‘so & so’ down’.

The thing is, why are we not so concerned about letting ourselves down?

We are taught always to think of others first and when we don’t we are often shamed for doing so by peers.

We need to turn that around and stop letting ourselves down, stop missing our deadlines, stop holding back on the things that make us happy. Stop feeling guilty about others as we could be accountable to ourselves first.

In doing so, we are much less likely to let others down. If we are happy, fulfilled and achieving what matters to us, then we are better placed when needed to be helpful, reliable and supportive of others.

Often, though, it is when other people are letting themselves down that others are needed to step in.

It’s not being selfish to think about ourselves, it is helping us to be happy. Surely that will count to the right people around us.