Tag: Happiness

Resistance is futile

Posted on by philipdodson

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Apart from being something, I think Darth Vadar says to someone in Star Wars, resistance is futile.

We go against our own inner voice at times and rather than be vulnerable and open up to our true self, we swim against things, or put shields up to ‘protect’ ourselves.

This has a good deal to do with the shaming and fear based society we live in.

However, we go against what we really feel in our hearts at times, frightened of letting go. That does not mean we have to aimlessly meander through life with no purpose whatsoever.

Once you learn to let go, stop resisting, step away from our demons or our fears, it is like a huge weight has been lifted off us. We become open instead of closed, happy instead of anxious and we let so much more into our lives.

Just think how much we deny ourselves, how much we miss out on, all because resistance.

We often resist the very things that we think we are striving to achieve. We believe we want happiness, love, kindness, to belong, yet we resist ourselves and others because even though we think we want these things, we are equally frightened of them.

Let go, stop resisting, open up to life and see what happens, after all, resisting hasn’t achieved much and is pointless.

Looking for the bigger Lego set

Posted on by philipdodson

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Yesterday evening I sat talking with my brother and we were reminiscing about our childhood, where we would rush on a Saturday morning armed with our pocket money to the local newsagents, Hewitt’s, and spend the lot on multi-coloured sugar treats like Black Jacks and Tutti-Fruitis.

Then hurry home for a morning of children’s TV programmes, that were occasionally interrupted by commercials.

We’d look on in awe at all the stuff advertised, clearly aimed at us, so that we would pressure our parents into why we needed an ‘Evel Knievel’ stunt bike.

The thing was we were living through the growing and ever worsening consumerism, whereby we were all being brainwashed into thinking happiness came from buying bigger stuff.

My brother and I loved Lego, each time we saw the ads for Lego sets we had that feeling of WOW!! shortly followed by a wash of disappointment we felt when we remembered how inadequate our small biscuit tins of Lego pieces were, not a set in sight.

So we were always looking for a bigger Lego set and trying to convince our parents, well normally trying to guilt them into purchasing one.

The problem in life is once you get the bigger set, you find out that happiness is always drained when you discover that there is always a bigger one that you don’t have.

Be happy with what you have already, bigger isn’t better and it will never enhance your happiness.

Focus on people, activities and meaningful things, not on stuff.