Tag: easy

A comfort in holding on

Posted on by philipdodson

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Liberating ourselves from past behaviours is sometimes sabotaged.

We may think that we have decided to change and form new habits.

Sometimes we explain to ourselves that lapses in behaviour are to do with it taking a long time to change a habit. This is certainly true of habits that we have had for a lifetime that we are trying to alter.

However, sometimes there is a subconscious comfort in remaining as we were, particularly if the habit is related to a person or perhaps our childhood.

Once you realise what triggers a particularly habitual behaviour that you are trying to change, get really curious to see if this behaviour has a comfort zone from the past.

Comfort zones are nearly always uncomfortable and safety is riskier than change. Staying stuck with a habit is in the long-term more painful than the change.

As I blogged only recently, hard things end up being easy longer-term and easy is always painful, like holding on for ‘comfort’.

It’s under our noses

Posted on by philipdodson

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What we want in life is often staring us straight in the face, it is waving at us, it is jumping up and down in front of us waving a huge ‘hello, this is your life’ banner at us.

Yet we continue very often searching for the less obvious, we feel sometimes that the obvious and easy, is not what we need or are looking for in life.

It is there in plain sight just waiting to be picked up. Yet we seem to perhaps even be frightened of doing the obvious, we put up excuses in our heads or to others as to why we would not do the thing that makes the most sense.

We have this sense of perversity sometimes.

Just stop ignoring the signals, do the easy and obvious, after all, why not? what have you got to lose by trying it?