Forgiveness

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It is one of the most difficult things to learn and apply.

It requires us to let go, stop being that ‘dog with a bone’.

It requires us to see things from another person’s perspective, to take a walk in their shoes, to see their lives.

It requires us to accept that we all act with good intention, so very, very few set out differently and if they do, there is a reason why.

It requires us to move on from the failed pursuit of being right.

It requires us to be empathetic and compassionate.

However, before we can forgive others, we must be compassionate with ourselves and forgive ourselves too.

Forgiveness allows us to feel worthy and to realise others are too.

It enables us to become, as Brene Brown would say, a wholehearted person.

Vengeance will never create anything good for anyone.

Leaving a legacy

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Olympic games have to build in legacy.

Like so many corporate strategies, it’s hollow and manipulative.

Even the dictionary definition immediately jumps to define it as ‘an amount of money or property left to someone in a will’.

Legacy is what we leave behind with people other than the shallow shit of money and property.

It is the activities, kindness, love, companionship, empathy, support, and help. It is the time we have given to do these things with others.

This is then left as memories etched in people’s minds forever.

Leaving a legacy is not about achievement, money or stuff, it’s about the simple human stuff that makes us and others happy.

It’s often the small things that make a huge difference.

Don’t ponder for a lifetime how you will leave your legacy, it is simple, start now. Be kind, love, help and empathise with yourself and others.

This is what you leave after you have gone, this is what the people who matter will remember and cherish.