Love, kindness, empathy, understanding, compassion are not strategies or things we need to learn. We have them always from the day we are born until we die. It is what our soul, our true essence is.
They get hidden by the constant noise of our minds and its constant repetitive thought patterns. The mind then believes in order to boost its fragile ego, it will be more ’empathetic’ or more ‘loving’. Perhaps, the unconscious mind state has read a book by a ‘guru’.
You can’t be more or less loving as a true human conscious soul, as we are love, joy, kindness, and understanding always. We just get conditioned to be dominated by our mind and become unconscious and unaware of what we truly are.