The problem with not showing up is that you spend your time and energy wondering what you could have achieved and then beating yourself up for not doing it. We build regret.
Showing up is very hard to do consistently enough to start making a difference, so we hide behind perfection, fear, and anything that will avoid us committing. We are programmed that way, avoid embarrassment, don’t expend energy we don’t need to, stay safe and hide in the shadows.
But not showing up over time is worse than the initial pain and effort it takes to build the habit of commitment. We have to get the ball rolling, it’s tough, but once we do keeping the momentum becomes easier over time. It is all about habit.
Not showing up never gets easier, it always becomes tougher and tougher to overcome the regrets and disappointment with ourselves.