The two pains of falling down

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So I fell on my arse, quite literally on some ice this week, it hurt but it went away with time.

I have fallen on my arse metaphorically many times in life, it hurts and still does.

The difference between the two pains is our choice.

The physical pain will go often of its own accord, although, here the mind can prolong or exaggerate the pain if we so choose. But over time we heal.

The mental pain of failure is there for as long as we choose it to be and its severity is another choice we make. We can hold on to failure or let it go. But if we choose, the mental pain can remain for a lifetime.

We can allow it to dominate or we can accept it and choose a different outcome. We can let go, we can move forward, forgive, learn and step out of victimhood.

After all, we will always have falls in life, it is how we deal with it that matters.

Pain is a choice.

A distant place to hide

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Far away in the distance is another place.

Maybe the grass is greener there.

It’s an escape.

A place to run away to.

But what if you get there and the grass isn’t greener, it’s not an escape, it’s not better?

What if running away is just a way of hiding from the things we need to face?

Face whatever it is that you want to run from. It will take time, it will take being vulnerable, it will take the love and support of yourself. But the outcome will be worth it.

Then you’ll be able to visit a distant place to enjoy it, not to hide in it.