Having your cake and eating it

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Rather than getting off the fence, we all too often want our ‘cake and eat it’.

Simply put we want the best of both worlds, we don’t want to feel like we’re missing out on something. So we try hard to achieve too many things all at once, hoping that we can have everything all at the same time.

The thing is, you can have your ‘cake and eat it’ if you focus on what you already have. Most of us already have all that we need in life, yet we expend a huge amount of energy on trying to get things we don’t have or actually don’t need.

What we need, is not more money or possessions, it’s belonging, love, kindness, to feel worthy, people, friends, family and memories of activities we did with the people who matter.

If you realise you will always have the ‘cake’ every day, it’s there because you are choosing happiness and contentment with what you have.

Then you can ‘eat’ and the next day it will be replenished by your mindset, there will be another ‘cake’. We can create all the ‘cakes’ we need. We just need to accept that, be content and enjoy what we have.

Discontent is the tool of the industrialised system to lead us to constantly want more, it is how we feel we are able to reach contentment and happiness. Keep getting more and more. It’s a myth.

Happiness and acceptance of what we have are the perfect antidotes to discontent and feeling inadequate.

We only want the best of both worlds when we are striving for things we don’t have and actually don’t need.

Accept what you have and be happy.

We just don’t realise

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Sometimes in life we do not realise just how much we have achieved, how much of an amazing journey we have been on.

We often do not stop to see what we have, and I do not mean how big your bank balance is, or the size of the house you live in. I am talking about our families, friends, the places we’ve been, the activities we’ve done, the fun days or nights out, the things that really matter.

Mainly we are stressing about all the things that we do not have, or haven’t done, or could have done better/different…….

It’s what you have that counts, and there is always now to change anything, not in future, as that may not happen. Certainly not in the past, as that is gone.

Now is what matters and what you have.