Expectations

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Disappointment is something that affects us badly. We feel sadness or we beat ourselves for failing to meet our expectations. Or we have disappointment with others when we set expectations on them.

Often when we are disappointed by something, we aim to try even harder with that particular goal or say I need to do more or push more.

It is all to do with managing expectations of ourselves and what we expect of others, of what we are doing ourselves or collectively.

That doesn’t mean to have a negatively low expectation of everything that we do or others. It means expect to do less and do not put unrealistic expectations on things, be prepared to try, readjust and keep adjusting until it gets to where you want. Often having no expectations is very liberating.

Expect less, do less and end up achieving more by removing the draining effects of disappointment with ourselves and others.

Don’t expect everything now.

Waiting to be chosen

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Often in life, we wait for others to choose us. Perhaps a boss, or a partner or a friend. To be picked for a team, to get a promotion, to be chosen to lead.

We hope to get noticed, we try hard to be picked.

Then the disappointment comes when we are not chosen. We then blame ourselves or we think that we are not worthy enough or others are always better.

We all have our own genius within us, our own unique skill and talent. Just because others around us may not be able to spot it does not make us unworthy or lacking.

Find out your passion in life and go build it. If you are not getting picked to star in a film, make your own. If you are not getting the promotion or fulfillment at work, start your own thing and make that fulfilling.

The solution is to choose ourselves, stop waiting to be picked, as it may never happen.