Tag: approval

The loan’s approved

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The loan is approved.

Your club membership has been approved my the committee.

Your application to the diving club has got approval.

The planning consent for your extension has been approved by the council.

Your holiday request form has been approved by the supervisor.

You are approved to join our Facebook group.

And so on…………..

There are many things that we need approval for supposedly.

Choosing how to live our lives, what we do or don’t and what we choose to spend our time doing each day, doesn’t need anyone else’s approval.

It’s our life, our choice, to live it how we want and we need to stop seeking the approval of others, none of us needs that, others do not have authority over our choices, we do.

We need to have complete belief in ourselves and what we are capable of. The opinions of others are just that and it is not the critic or other persons view that matters, it is ours that counts.

Approve yourself, remove the excuses, and get on with a guilt free and liberated life that needs no one else’s signature.

We are approved by ourselves only and we are then responsible for the outcome of our choices.

Waiting vs allowing

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How often in our lives do we find ourselves mentally waiting for something, not a bus, or a train. Not allowing our lives to move on.

We are often waiting for the right conditions, we are waiting for someone’s approval or permission.

That’s because we’ve been trained that way from an early age, it’s all part of making us compliant. ‘Ask before you do that’ ‘Have you got permission to do that?’ and ‘you need permission to go to the toilet’ and so on. Our lives are full of expectations of needing permission.

What if we decided to stop waiting? What might happen? What if we just did things without asking others first?

The thing is there never are perfect conditions, we are not a school anymore having to ask permission to go to the toilet. The approval of others is an internal excuse because we can not face our own fears. We do not need permission to build our dreams or be happy.

Perhaps we could replace waiting with allowing ourselves. It is all a choice in our heads, as the world is not waiting for us, we have a duty to ourselves to go out there and be our best. Share with the world our creations, our work.

Take control, ‘take permission’ as Andy Traub says.

Then don’t wait for the applause, the congratulations, carry on allowing yourself to do your thing. By asking approval you are compromising your best for other people’s opinions.