Being ok with things

In the past I would beat myself up relentlessly about things.

Then finally I realised that it never inspired any improvement or change, not once did I feel good about myself afterwards.

So after years of painful struggle to change the habit, I’ve now reached a place of ‘being ok with things’.

I still fuck up, we all do. I still have days when I don’t achieve much, hey, we all do. I’ve slowly learnt to accept.

OK, I’ll still have the odd beating up session for old time sake. But that’s OK.

Perhaps my mellowness has come with many years of life experience, sure that’s some of it, however, I believe it’s a mindset I could have chosen at any age.

It’s not that I do not care, well actually, I don’t care, it’s only a chance to learn and that’s it, no one died, I survived, and life goes on.

If we just focus on getting even better slightly every day, then that’s the best we can aim for and it’s OK if we don’t.

No good blaming the Kardashians

Society talks about role models, often referring to politicians, or sports players or actors and so on. Most often we look to celebrities, as a society, many seem to be in awe of them.

The fact is, every single one of us is a role model to someone, maybe many. Society isn’t this nebulous thing, each and every one of us forms it.

If we want to see change, we can choose to be inspiring, we can choose to be accountable for how we behave and we can choose to lead. We can choose to step up and be a role model for the people who matter.

No good blaming the Kardashians or some politician.