Often we say those two words after something has or hasn’t happened. ‘What if I had got up earlier?’, ‘What if I had only said….’, ‘What if we had spent more time listening to her’, ‘What if….’.
The fact is we didn’t get up earlier and we were late, we didn’t say that thing and we missed out, we didn’t listen to someone before it was too late.
We are always analysing the past and playing out scenarios in our heads to see how things could have played out differently. It is a waste of time, as it’s an outcome you can’t alter.
Rather than ‘what if…?’ we decided to say ‘what can I do to change?’.
Changing ourselves is the key to better future outcomes and a good deal less of ‘what if?’.